"The question had become: what can we forgive in others? How far do they have to go before we lose faith in them?" ~ Hanif Kureishi :) * This post, and 99% of the noon posts, was written more than a year ago. Cheers! :)
She had asked me to help her with the floral arrangement for a few church weddings and some weekend services. Each time she would inform me one day earlier. Each time she would call again on the day itself to remind me about the appointed time, but every time, she was late by half-an-hour, without any apology nor explanation, even though she stays nearby.
Since I prefer to volunteer on a regular basis instead of last-minute ad hoc arrangement, as it disrupts my daily routine, I asked her about the floral team in church. She said that she had enough members in it. Okay.
One day, the Senior Pastor announced that the floral team required new regular helpers for the year. I approached her immediately again. However, she said that they have enough volunteers. Fine.
A few weeks later, she called me. I told her off assertively "You remember me only when you need my free help. I won't assist you anymore. Good bye!"
Some tips for her freelance floral business: Always, always make the bridal bouquet according to the wish of the bride. Always, always stick to the chosen colour theme selected by the bridal couple.
Why did she change the pattern of the bridal bouquet for some brides without their permission? Why did she change the colour theme of the floral decoration in church for some of the bridal couples without their consent? It was their big day and not hers. They had paid for the flowers and her service.
No wonder, the Senior Pastor had mentioned during a dedication service that the particular floral team is a place for different personalities to learn to work together :) * This post, and 99% of the noon posts, was written more than a year ago. Cheers! :)
A young lady ran out of her way to call me with a cheerful voice upon seeing me from afar in the shopping mall. I didn't recognise her at first. Then she told me she is my child's former schoolmate. She is such a sweet, young lady with impeccable manners :)
A few weeks later, I bumped into a former classmate of my child along a narrow path in the neighbourhood. She knows who I am. She saw me. She looked at me from head to toe. Then she looked away without even a faint smile on her lips as we walked along the narrow path. This reflects on her own upbringing by her father who is a pastor as well as her mother who freelances as a florist and whom I had helped a few times before. * This post, and 99% of the noon posts, was written more than a year ago. Cheers! :)
Be aware that the other person may not see a situation the way we see it. He sees the world differently from us and believes that what he says, how he behaves and his expectations are all acceptable. Empathise with his viewpoint and offer solutions that ensure a win-win outcome :)
Last evening, I emailed a top blogger from Malaysia, requesting for some information. She replied me within 15 minutes. It was during the usual busy dinner time. She has a very young baby and toddler to look after. I'm very impressed and grateful. I'm so touched and happy. Thank you very much, Audrey Ooi :)
When we communicate with another person, it is important to remember that human beings are almost totally driven by their emotions. It therefore makes sense to communicate on both a human and business level when dealing with another person :)
If we are faced with someone who is emotionally charged up, we have to manage these emotions first before we can deal with the problem. Deal with his feelings and then deal with his problems. We interact on a human level to deal with the feelings, and a business level to deal with the problem. Human level responses include: being warm and friendly, focusing on the other person, listening actively, using the person's name appropriately and being flexible :)
"Wow! Giotto again! Yummy. From who?" "HeHe!" "Orh!" :) We tend to reserve the best, precious snacks until we overlooked the expiry date. We must remember to enjoy this Giotto :) heart emoticon Tiah tiah heart emoticon
"We still do not sufficiently appreciate the impact that what we do or say can have on others, especially via social media. The consequences are often unintended, but by then it is too late. The old adage 'the pen is mightier than the sword' still holds true in the Internet age, even though the keyboard has replaced the pen. A sword cuts deep, but words can cut deeper. We need to have a care in what we say about others." ~ Indranee Rajah :)
Today officially marks the 10th year of this blog.
I really have never thought that I could keep this blog for one whole decade.
This one decade consists of tiny fragments of small happiness as well as bliss here and there. When we put them all together, we have a big bundle of sincere joy.
Blogging has changed so much. My writing style has changed too. My blogging buddies remain the same through the years; encouraging each other on to greater heights and depths of blogging. We have moved on to Facebook now.
Today is extra meaningful because today, I have blogged for a full ten years. The person who is responsible for the destiny of this blog is having pure and simple happiness in her life now. My child created this blog for me a decade ago. I took up her challenge and I'm still blogging today :)
“True friends are hard to find. In a lifetime we only get a few. And when we findthem, we always know them by sight and heart alone, we always grow a little bit taller in our soul, and we know we have been blessed just to know them.” ~ Ashley Rice :)
"We can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what we can have when we sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet we feel that person with our heart, we feel like we have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue." ~ C.Joybell C. :)