24 April 2014

Enough

"We can get everything we want in life if we just help enough other people to get what they want." ~ Zig Ziglar

23 April 2014

Quotes from Quan Yifeng

"I do not blame my haters, I have no grouses, I have already forgotten them. I wish them all the best."

"Other people can say whatever they want, it is their problem. I just want to watch my heart, guard my mouth, and mind my own business."

"Being merciful means not fighting, being wise means not arguing... Forgiving gives me a sense of release, being grateful means letting go."

22 April 2014

Snippets

"Wish you lived closer to me, so we could visit once in a while! xox" Awww... Just a simple wish from my dear friend, Renie SB. It caused my eyes to shed some tears of happiness this morning. Thank you! (((HUGS)))  xoxoxo

Trust-in-Transition

During trust-in-transition, the trustor experiences conflicting thoughts and mixed emotions. This occurs because the trustor has a previously positive perception of the trustee based on evidence but is now undergoing negative experiences related to issues of competence, integrity, benevolence or some combination of these dimensions.

21 April 2014

Diverse

When trust is low, people experience diverse emotions, from anger and anxiety to disappointment and frustration. They become sceptical when reacting to others too.

20 April 2014

Elite

An elite should not be disconnected from ground sentiments, must be able to empathise and care enough for the less fortunate or ordinary folk.

19 April 2014

Snippets

"Actually i had something to ask U at 5am just now. Too early then. Now i forgot what. HaHa! No worries. i'll text U when my memory is refreshed. Old alr :)"

My memory is still not refreshed yet :D The above text was sent at 8:38am today in response to a regular texting buddy's message.

Trust in Benevolence

This is about our belief in a person's intentions and motivations.

18 April 2014

Trust in Integrity

This is about our assessment of a person's character or the extent to which we think he is not corrupt and is impartial.

17 April 2014

Snippets

♥ Who doesn't like you? Everyone likes you. Even your enemies like you 

Trust in Competence

This is about our confidence in the ability to perform and solve problems.

16 April 2014

Trust

Trust affects how we think, feel and behave. It takes time to build, is easy to lose and once lost, is difficult to restore. Given how critical and complex the concept of trust is, research on trust perceptions may shed light on how and why we trust or distrust.

15 April 2014

Snippets

♥ I'm very tired. I drove in the very heavy rain just now 

Close

Everyone holds a space in our lives. The closer they are to us, the more transparent it is and the more vulnerable it is. We need wisdom to choose who is close to us. Only the people close to us can hurt us :)

14 April 2014

Human Progress

It should assault our moral sensibilities when people flaunt their ostentatious toys so blatantly without a care for people who are suffering unrelenting hardships through no fault of theirs.

Politically, socially and environmentally, we cannot sustain this escalating consumerism that is plugged as human progress.

13 April 2014

Snippets

♥ Collective Effort 

Analyse

"Every situation has many facets. Don't just believe everything you see or hear, analyse them carefully and in detail." ~ Carina Lau

12 April 2014

Discernment

One of the most rewarding kinds of listening includes discernment.

Discernment involves detecting the unarticulated messages and undercurrents hidden below the surface of spoken interaction, complaints, behaviour and actions.

11 April 2014

Active Listening

Actively listening to others to understand their attitudes and values, needs, personal goals and desires.

10 April 2014

Snippets

Wasn't it a soliloquy after the deletion? Perplexed. 

Creating Solutions

One of the benefits of eating lunch with our colleagues is the fact that eventually conversations always turn to work-related problems. Being aware of these problems and taking part in developing solutions will help us be a more valuable employee.

09 April 2014

Snippets

Grateful and thankful beyond words. Praise Him! 

Listen

Listen to positive people
and ignore the negative ones.
People that doubt, judge and disrespect us
are not worth our time and attention.

08 April 2014

Snippets

Saw a full rainbow in the eastern horizon yesterday. Beautiful! 

Make It A Point

"Make it a point to look at each person you come into contact with with the same compassion and respect you would want yourself." ~ Annette Samford

07 April 2014

Snippets

Tabebuia Rosea, Pink Tecoma or Rosy Trumpet Tree :)

Speaking the Truth

"The greatest advantage of speaking the truth is we do not have to remember what we had said." ~ Author Unknown

06 April 2014

Truth

Words may lie but actions will always tell the truth.

05 April 2014

Snippets

Panasonic :)

Right Track

"We know we are on the right track when we are not interested in looking back." ~ Author Unknown

04 April 2014

Honest

"Being honest may not get us a lot of friends but it will always get us the right ones." ~ John Lennon

03 April 2014

Hide

"The only reason a person hides things, is because they have something to hide." ~ Mychal Massie

02 April 2014

Snippets

A very wonderful lunch with HN for six hours in Soup Spoon Union :)

Fair

"I have this philosophy in life, whatever we do in life, we have to be fair - I don't cheat you, you don't come and cheat me. That's all." ~ Allen Law

01 April 2014

Bright Spots

When faced with adversity at an early age, we learn to use internal resources to get what we need. Finding bright spots in dark places is part luck and part persistence.

31 March 2014

Wealth

"Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants." ~ Epicurus

30 March 2014

Fulfilling Life

Most of us believe that the more money we have, the happier we will be. But if we really want to have a fulfilling life, it is not the wealth we have accumulated that matters. It is how we spend it that counts.

29 March 2014

Money

Whatever money a person has, it is still just a number. The money is not ours until we spend it.

28 March 2014

Snippets

Table 8 Salmon Temaki 3:37:38PM :)

Trust

"I believe we are put on earth to make soul corrections. A lot of this comes through pain and suffering. Just trust the process." ~ Gywneth Paltrow

27 March 2014

Empower

"I empower myself by knowing myself and knowing who I am and treating that with importance. I no longer always do things for other people. Instead, I have an integrity in things that I do and who I do them with and who I do them for." ~ Gwyneth Paltrow

26 March 2014

Reflection

"I don't read anything about myself. What strangers say is really about them, not about me. Whether it's anger or joy they are expressing, they may be projecting it on me, but it is really a reflection of themselves." ~ Gwyneth Paltrow


PS at 2:55pm:
The above paragraph was prepared many months ago and then scheduled to be posted today. 
Today Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are separating after 11 years of marriage.
This is not the first time that an uncanny coincidence happened with my blog postings. 

25 March 2014

Snippets

So long the wait, so quick the hope dashed - so many lives changed, so many questions left unanswered... Why? MH370

Deception

The truth of deception.

24 March 2014

Raining Grace

"Like water from the heavens
let Your grace rain down on us,
O Lord.

And spring forth from our parched souls
like wellsprings of life-giving
peace, forgiveness and joy.

May streams of mercy flow
from Your most Sacred Heart
to cleanse, nourish and refresh
our lives now and forever." 


~ Joseph Veneroso

23 March 2014

Eyes

Because our eyes are always honest
They will always be telling the truth
even if our mouth is telling a lie

22 March 2014

Noble

"When someone is crying, of course, the noble thing to do is to comfort them. But if someone is trying to hide their tears, it may also be noble to pretend you do not notice them." ~ Author Unknown

21 March 2014

Understand

"There are some things that I’ll never understand. I’ll never understand the goosebumps I get when first stepping into hot water. I’ll never understand the dreams I have with strangers in them, people I’ve never met or seen. I’ll never understand how a person can keep going back to the ones who hurt them. But what I do understand is that once we do understand everything, the world loses its shine. Curiosity killed the cat, but the cat had nine lives." ~ Author Unknown

20 March 2014

Snippets

Four female strangers, walked under the heavy rain, in the comfort of each other's presence :)

Status Syndrome

Becoming more affluent may lower the risk of disease by lessening the sense of helplessness and allowing greater access to healthful resources like exercise and more nutritious food. But the effects of early-life stress also seem to linger, unfavourably moulding our nervous systems and possibly even accelerating the rate at which we age.

19 March 2014

Snippets

"Gossip king must have a very good memory." :D

The Plus Factor

* Always use positive words
* Use confident words
* Practise good manners
* Use humour

18 March 2014

Snippets

Posting. Waving. Sending. :)

Positive

We are more likeable and influential when we are positive and show a "can do" spirit.

Being positive is not just a state of mind. It also translates into how we communicate. Our choice of words. Our tone of voice and our non-verbal cues.

17 March 2014

Snippets

The different unique and melodious ringing tones :)

The Mask

When we drop our mask and choose to be real with others, we give the other party a chance to drop their mask and be real with us. So do ourselves a favour.

Drop the mask. Be genuine and sincere with others.

16 March 2014

Snippets

Drought since 13 January 2014. Thank you for the very heavy rain today :)

Meaningful Connections

* Be conscious of how we judge others
* Appreciate our talent
* Get real

15 March 2014

Snippets

"Heard you dressed very nice yesterday." :)

Simple Joy

Simple joy in life with a kind and beautiful heart :)

14 March 2014

English

"The English language is difficult. But it is also rich, and so clear and bright that we can search out the darkest places with it. Also it is heavenly simple and true. We adore the English language and that is a fact." ~ Katherine Mansfield

13 March 2014

Snippets

Explosion in New York. Missing Flight MH370. Hazy and drought in Singapore. It is like an apocalypse. Stay close to God. Take care 

Moment

We shall try to catch that moment - with something of its sparkle and its flavour :)

12 March 2014

Snippets

Found the perfect catch-22 solution. Best! :)

Real Friends

"Your real friends are the people who are there when it counts. They are there when you’re at your absolute worst and you need someone to pick you up off the floor where you’ve been laying because you’ve felt like you can get up on your own. They are there when you are sick, when you are heart-broken, when you feel unwanted or hated or like everything is going wrong. Your real friends are there, by your side, holding you up or right behind you, to catch you if you trip.
Your real friends are the ones who deal with you even when you are not very easy to deal with. They love you despite even when you’re at your most unlovable because they know that’s when you need it the most. They defend you when no one else will and they stand up for you even when they’re the only ones doing it. Your real friends give you a break when you need it, and they give you a break for as long as you need it.
Your real friends are the ones who would be difficult to forget because they are hard to make in the first place. Should the friendship ever end, you know that you would be heartbroken. You know this because you’ve been through so much with them. You’ve seen each other laugh and cry, and together you’ve built a special bond that has contributed to making you the person you are today. And for them, you are eternally grateful.
Your real friends are the ones who know that you’re changing, and that you’re growing, and growing up. They know that the friendship may change too this but they’re not giving up because they want to survive all the changes because they believe in this friendship. So your real friend holds you closely and you hold them closely too; you hold them with both hands." ~ Author Unknown

11 March 2014

Snippets

Fated. Freaky. Fake. :D

Wisdom

The course of life and a touch of wisdom :)

10 March 2014

Fact Tells but Stories Sell

Stories are real. They are easy to tell and relate. They are memorable. They are emotional. They give third-party credibility. Stories have the power to move people into action.

"Tell a story, make a point." ~ Bill Gove

09 March 2014

Snippets

Interesting phone call. No wonder.

90/20/8 Principle

This principle was first introduced by Bob Pike, an adult-learning specialist.

To keep our audience engaged, involve them every 8 minutes and change the channel of information delivery every 20 minutes.

No presentation should go more than 90 minutes without giving the audience a physical break.

08 March 2014

Snippets

MH370.

Help the Audience See What We Say

Words have the power to motivate change and inspire results only when our audience can see what we say in their minds. It is the visual images we paint in their minds that rouse their emotions and energise them into action.

07 March 2014

Snippets

Epiphany :)

Connect Before We Influence

People buy people first.

So before we attempt to influence, first connect by speaking their lingo. Show them that we are on their side.

Only when they like us, trust us and believe in us, will they buy what we are saying.

06 March 2014

Our Audience is King

People do not come to our presentation to exalt us. They come to find out what we can do for them.


05 March 2014

Snippets

Oh yes! :)

Every Presentation is a Persuasion Opportunity

Our role is to persuade our audience to change their preferences or their perspectives. Our words, our slides and our props are merely tools to help us achieve this objective.

04 March 2014

Snippets

Bedok, Kovan and NEX are not interesting anymore.

Sell the "Why" First

Context is more important than the content. Our audience won't be open to hear the "what" and the "how" until they are sold the "why".

03 March 2014

Snippets

The weather is glorious; the heavens are smiling :)

Be Authentic

Our audience will choose an authentic speaker over a polished speaker every single time.

Make sure we believe every single word that we say and, more importantly, walk the talk.

02 March 2014

Snippets

"Cannot say one."
"Perhaps cannot write one."

Mouth sealed. Pen closed. Heart rejoices.

Less is More

It is not about how much information we can give. It is about how much information our audience can receive and remember.

01 March 2014

Get to the Point

Our audience is living in a world of dramatic distraction where everything around them is competing for their attention.

We cannot afford to be long-winded. Cut the fluff and get to the core of our message fast.

28 February 2014

Snippets

"OMG! That's the father!"
"The world is too small!"

The world is indeed very, very small.

Great Person

A great person treats others with dignity and respect, especially those who have nothing to offer in return.

27 February 2014

Pearls of Wisdom

Learn to think like a great leader by using the PEARL model.

P is for purpose, process and plan.

E is for execution and experience.

A is for assessment.

R is for revision.

L is for learn.

26 February 2014

We are a Success

For those who get very nervous about starting a new job, keep our farewell card from our former workplace handy at home to re-read the positive message from people who were once strangers to us too.

Remind ourselves of past successes and that we are hired because we are the best person for the job and have lots to offer.

We only get one shot at a first impression, so make sure ours have positive and lasting effects.

25 February 2014

Snippets

I responded with an "Oh?" in February 2009.
I repeated with another "Oh?" in July 2012.
I reacted with a "No wonder!" in February 2014.

Things usually look very simple on the surface. Once it is scratched a bit, the true facts will appear. Perhaps, not immediately. But, eventually, the pieces will fall into place. Just be patient :)

Be Quick to Observe, Slow to Judge

Do not make snap judgments about people or situations.

In the early part of our job tenure, we are best placed to just observe the workplace culture, connections and rituals. Steer clear of any politics and walk away from any conversation that sounds like gossip.

24 February 2014

Listen and Listen

In the early stages, we should be listening a lot more than talking. Make good quality notes but check the workplace protocol before taking any handheld device into meetings. An old-fashioned note pad will also do the job.

23 February 2014

Snippets

His brother and cousin are working in Singapore now. Oh well...

Ask Questions

We are in a learning phase so we are expected to ask questions or for an instruction to be repeated.

Our manager has a busy job so don't expect him or her to remember to tell us everything we need to know.

Take responsibility for getting up to speed and make the most of our meetings by asking quality questions about what is expected but also about our manager's work style and the preferred method of communication.

This is also a great time to talk to other key people in the business - when appropriate - about the bigger picture as well as what they do and how success is achieved in their areas.

22 February 2014

Snippets

One surprise. Two surprises. Good Evening to you!


Stay Focused on What is Important

Keep our job description handy and review it as we are getting up to speed.

Reflect on how what we are learning ties to what is expected of us and how we will achieve success.

Any new job changes over time, but we need to guard against spending energy on tasks that are irrelevant to achieving our goals.

21 February 2014

Snippets

The friend's mother is no longer working at the basement shop since a week ago. She is not missed by anyone.

Memorise People's Names

Greet people by name and use their names when conversing to help imbed this information. As an extra bonus, we will be rapport-building at the same time.

20 February 2014

Personal Stock Take

A new job is an opportunity to review our habits and personal attributes. So keep those that serve us and toss out those that don't.

19 February 2014

First Day at Work

We only get one shot at making a lasting impression, so get it right.

18 February 2014

Snippets

Giotto and Knoppers :)

Ground Rules for Corporate Blogging

* Be professional

* Mind our language

* Do not twitterfly

* Value context

* Pay attention to vocabulary

* Be objective

17 February 2014

Corporate Blogging

The main objective of corporate blogging is to improve the discussion platforms within the organisation.

It enhances internal communication.

It helps to promote connections between employees within the company.

It promotes visibility and boosts team-building.

It promotes better writing and communication skills and creates a useful information resource.

It serves as a knowledge platform, especially when coupled with internal Wiki platforms.

16 February 2014

Samoa Air

Some airlines charge passengers more for their bags, but Samoa Air is the first to charge them for their saddlebags.

15 February 2014

Snippets

The melodious chirping of a bird at 5:25am :)

Welcome

Honour our past and welcome our future.

14 February 2014

Be Yourself

"Be yourself, don't pretend. Don't do something because other people think you should. Because in the end, you will regret it and feel you have betrayed yourself." ~ Rui En :)

12 February 2014

Forgiveness

 Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.

11 February 2014

Snippets

Three funerals in three countries today. The fragility of life.

Where

"It is really only when we know where we come from that we know where to go." ~ Richard Eu

10 February 2014

Flaunting

"Flaunting our wealth to show that we are the bigger person is very shallow." ~ Dexter Koh

09 February 2014

Snippets

Good bye, Lee Sim.

Future

Honour the past but welcome the future.

08 February 2014

Snippets

Good bye, Merle.

Principles

"In the end, principles such as accountability, honesty, fair-dealing, justice and truth will for me take precedence over position, popularity, recognition and acceptance." ~ Chew Eng Han

07 February 2014

Reflection

Reflection and contemplation are admirable virtues.

06 February 2014

In The Moment

"If we can't do everything at one, then do the best that we can of something during that specific moment in time that we're in. Just be in the moment as much as we can." ~ Rosie Pope

05 February 2014

Once In A Lifetime

"The best kind of people are the ones that come into your life and make you see the sun where you once saw clouds. The people that believe in you so much, you start to believe in you too. The people that love you, simply for being you. The once in a lifetime kind of people." ~ Author Unknown

04 February 2014

Why?

Many long-time regulars are worshiping in other churches now.

Why?

Could it be due to the wife of a pastor
who does not reflect the love and ways of God
even in the church premise itself on Sundays?

03 February 2014

Silence

The silence was beautiful and eloquent, projecting both a sense of peace and a sense of occasion.

02 February 2014

Social Setting

In a social setting, one helpful rule might be that we should always cater to the most conservative member of the gathering's level of outrageousness, unless that person is fuddy-duddy or intolerant.

01 February 2014

My

My space is small.
My life is big.

31 January 2014

Such A Long Time Ago

 "I do not care about that stuff any more - it is all such a long time ago," ~  Joyce Cherry :)

30 January 2014

Leader

If we are a leader in an organisation

* drive creativity
* implement innovative ideas
* take calculated risks
* reap the rewards

29 January 2014

Snippets

It might snow in the tropics one day.
Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps :)

Witty

Charisma is linked to wit. Those with the confidence to show their witty side are perceived to be charismatic.

28 January 2014

Snippets

It's snowing in Alabama now! Whee! Please stay warm and safe, Lieve Zus.

This is my first time blogging at this hour. Hee! It's a very special occasion because it's snowing in Alabama now :)


Talking

Everyone loves talking about themselves. Get them to talk about themselves. Use positive body language. Ask them more about what they are telling us and they will love us.

27 January 2014

Conversationalist

If we can get someone to talk for most of the time, he or she will think that we are brilliant conversationalist.

26 January 2014

Small Talk

People think that small talk is not important, but it is the way rapport is developed, connections made and impressions created.

25 January 2014

Unexpected Compliments

Often, unexpected compliments make the most pleasant memories. Remember, it all comes back to our intent, so don't worry about what others think. They will be able to sense if we intend to make them feel good, or make ourselves look good.

24 January 2014

Charismatic People

Charismatic people feel confident enough to build others up by showering compliments. Many of us shy away from giving compliments because we are worried about seeming unctuous, missing the opportunity to make someone else's day.

23 January 2014

Truly Great

The truly great can make us feel like the only person in the room when talking to us.

22 January 2014

Charisma

Picasso said "We are all born artists, the challenge is to remain an artist as we grow up."

It is the same with charisma. Most of us have buried our charisma in our misguided desire to be more grown up.

21 January 2014

Will

People will hurt us,
God will heal us.

People will humiliate us,
God will magnify us.

People will judge us,
God will justify us.

20 January 2014

Assertive

Assertive behaviour is positive.

It will help us communicate clearly and confidently our needs, wants and feelings to other people without abusing their human rights in any way.

It is logical, thinking behaviour; it is not driven by emotions.

Although it may be natural for a few people, it tends to be learned behaviour.

It is about being clear and direct in what we say. Stating our needs and feelings in a straightforward way. Standing up for our rights without violating the rights of others.

Assertiveness is a very positive response in any interaction.

19 January 2014

Zettabyte

Ever heard of a zettabyte?

Probably not, but experts now predict that global internet traffic is likely to pass the zettabyte threshold by next year.

It will explode to 1.4 zettabytes a year by 2017, the equivalent of watching one billion DVDs per day every day for a year.

One zettabyte is one sextillion bytes - which is the digit one, with 21 noughts after it:

1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000

18 January 2014

Foundation Stones

The foundation stones for a balanced success are

* honesty
* character
* integrity
* faith
* love
* loyalty

17 January 2014

Google Glass

News about Google Glass is everywhere these days, and so are its critics.

Some charge it with only fashion crimes. Others worry about invasion of privacy. When out on a date with a Glass wearer, we won't know if they are recording us.

16 January 2014

Capitalism

Bankers should be breathing a sigh of relief now that they are no longer regarded as the ugly face of capitalism.

That dubious distinction has been passed on to brands such as Apple, Google, Amazon and Starbucks, multinationals which stand accused of engaging in systematic and complicated operations to shield their already fat profits from the payment of any corporate taxes.

15 January 2014

Master's Degrees

Colleges and universities in the United States are churning out master's degrees in sharply rising numbers, responding to a surge in demand for advanced credentials from young professionals who want to stand out in the workforce and earn more money.

14 January 2014

Formal Qualifications

One-third of Europe's working-age population have no, or low, formal qualifications. According to an EU estimate, eleven per cent of new jobs likely to be created in the next decade would require highly skilled workers.

13 January 2014

Lost Generation

Long periods out of school or jobs lead to loss of skill, creating a lost generation of workers in Europe who might be unfit for gainful employment.

12 January 2014

Snippets

She had lost so much weight last year and she wears black most of the time now. No wonder.

European Fatigue

With unemployment, uncertainty and growing inequality, a sort of European fatigue has set in.

11 January 2014

Structural Reforms

The growing burden of an ageing population, combined with the lost generation of unemployed youth, has made structural reforms far more difficult to achieve.

10 January 2014

Snippets

Even the tycoon and his family stay in a HDB flat.

Bank Bubble

Australia's low interest rates are easing the burden on homeowners with mortgages while Australian banks have boomed as housing prices have soared.

09 January 2014

Snippets

2 for $7.95 is cheaper than 2 for $4.95 :)

Have Fun at Work

It is critical for success in so many ways, including team harmony, cohesion and creativity. A fun outlook creates a creative outlook. Having fun during the creative process energises some and relaxes others, providing the correct environment to get things done.

08 January 2014

Positive Environment

It gives us more flexibility in our thinking and enables our perspective to be widened. Broader perspectives help us to explore more alternatives and invite more creativity and innovation.

07 January 2014

Snippets

"It's much cheaper."

Foster Diversity

We live in a multicultural environment, with people from different cultural backgrounds, who have different levels of experience, qualifications and outlooks, working together.

06 January 2014

Innovation

It is the implementation of a new idea, process or procedure.

05 January 2014

Snippets

Think deeper. Think more deeply.

Creativity

It is the act of devising something new, original or perhaps unusual. It could be an idea, a process or procedure.

04 January 2014

Snippets

Who was more surprised upon seeing her manning a shop in the basement?

Interest Rate

A slowdown in growth and inflation is putting pressure on Asia's export-dependent economies to cut interest rates. While that would rein in their strong currencies and help exports, economists warn that lower rates might add more fuel to an already sharp acceleration in debt levels.

03 January 2014

Snippets

Both a cynic and a realist.

Austerity

With draconian spending cuts and climbing unemployment threatening to push Europe back into recession, the pendulum of reform seems to set swing again - this time away from austerity.

02 January 2014

Top Ten Tourist Destinations

Top ten cities in the MasterCard Global Destination Cities 2013 Index:

1. Bangkok
2. London
3. Paris
4. Singapore
5. New York
6. Istanbul
7. Dubai
8. Kuala Lumpur
9. Hong Kong
10. Barcelona

01 January 2014

Snippets

I wish all of you a very great 2014 with lots of meaningful moments and splendid surprises :)

Happy New Year!

In 2014,
I hope you
love a little bolder
laugh a little louder
stand a little taller
be a little braver
dream a little bigger
and make the world a little brighter!


"Enough Happiness To Keep You Happy
During the year may you have
Enough happiness to keep you sweet
Enough hope to keep you happy
Enough success to keep you eager
Enough friends to give you comfort
Enough wealth to meet your needs
Enough enthusiasm to make you look forward to tomorrow
Enough determination to make each day better than the day before"
~ Author Unknown



31 December 2013

2013 Advertisers

M1 Singapore Fringe Festival
Urband Paris
Nanyang Optical
Crizal Lens
DoctorPage
Bioglan
Kinder Bueno
Fastestmind Dot Com
Cineleisure's Next Online Sensation
Great and Powerful Movie
Cebu Pacific Air
Colgate
MDIS
Jipaban
ACE
Philips AquaTouch
Starhub
7-Eleven
Wendy's
Qantas Airlines
Marvel's Iron Man 3
Swarovski
Canon
Samsung
Eu Yang Sang
IKEA
Lunamer - Astalift
Sentosa Island
Disney Pixar Monsters University
Disneyland Hong Kong
Strip
Kindness.Sg
Bossini
Disney The Lone Ranger
SAVE22.com.sg
Snickers
SilkyGirl BB Cream
Brands' Inner Shine
Browhaus The Brow Saloon
Shopabout
Disney Planes
L'oreal
Nescafe
GUESS
Insidious Chapter 2
Brooks
Sony Picture Cloudy 2
Philips Sonicare
Furby Boom
Olympus
MGM Carrie
Run For Your Lives Asia
Thor The Dark World
Raffles Hotel
Booktique
AMK Hub
OpenNet
Battle of the Year
MapleStory Season 2
Downtown Line 1 LTA
ZanSociety
KFC Korean Craze
First Campus NTUC
Vince Vaughn Delivery Man movie

Thank you very much :)

30 December 2013

Global Economy

It will not be all smooth sailing for the global economy in the new year. Some storms could arise, with the chief risk stemming from the Fed's trimming of its hefty monetary stimulus. This tapering will certainly kick in at some point in 2014. It could rock financial markets and demoralise international business confidence.

29 December 2013

Snippets

Yours truly has scheduled a post everyday for next year. Hee! :)

Performance Review

Were there areas that our boss had suggested needed improvement? Did he focus the conversation more on one aspect of our job than on others? This may be an indicator that we need to focus a little attention on improving that skill.

28 December 2013

Advice

"Speak softly. Pick up a big stick." ~ advice from Tim Oh's Dad to Tim :)

27 December 2013

Hotpots

New restaurants offering Thai, Korean, Japanese and local versions of hotpots are springing up all over the island. Why are diners in hot, tropical Singapore so in love with a winter dish?

26 December 2013

Bearings

Articulate and self-deprecating people have the calm and expansive personality often possessed by individuals who have gone through turbulence, tamed their wild side and found their bearings.

25 December 2013

Merry Christmas!

Wishing my dear readers a Very Joyful and Blessed Christmas (*.*)


"Another year draws near its close
I ask, dear Lord, please think of those
who touch our lives by being there
The friends with so much love to share
Please wrap their spirits in Your grace
So only smiles beam across each face
Let each one know they are held dear
Then, fill their hearts with Christmas cheer

Please Lord, keep hope within everyone's eyes
So they will always know they are blessed
By a faithful God who grants the best
Should challenges fall on others
Lord, lead them to a brand new start
Lift their feet through the uphill climb
Then guide them to a better time

Lord, summon angels - day and night
To bring miracles and sheer delight
Toward all my friends - near and abroad
Bless them with all that You can laud
Grant them good tidings, dreams and health
and moments of kind-natured wealth
So their New Year will surely be
As hallowed as You are to Thee
Amen." ~ Jill Eisnaugle




24 December 2013

Astalift

One of the very important advertisers on my blog in 2013. Thank you so much! :)



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23 December 2013

Snippets

Two friends asked me about Whatsapp within three hours. Hee! :)

Obligation

With fortune comes obligation.
We owe a debt, and not just to our Gods.
We owe a debt to the unfortunate.

22 December 2013

Snippets

Peaceful silence for the past two years. No wonder.

Lucky Break

When we meet someone down on his fortune, try to give him a helping hand.
Everyone deserves a lucky break.

21 December 2013

Snippets

Called by an old uncle. Chased by an aunty :D

Positive Attitude

Fortunate people have a positive attitude and lead happier lives.

20 December 2013

Snippets

Prime and tender :D

Future

Fortunate people look to the future and do not dwell on mistakes which may have caused the predicament they are facing. They also view any setback as temporary.

19 December 2013

Snippets

Iora :)

Pursue

Unfortunate people miss chance opportunities because they are looking for something else.
Fortunate people see the chance opportunities and pursue them.

18 December 2013

Frame of Mind

Our chance opportunities seem tied to our frame of mind.

17 December 2013

Snippets

The Christmas greeting cards had arrived in the foreign land :)

Variety

Fortunate people try hard to add variety to their lives:

* talking to different people
* breaking routines
* being open to new experiences

In doing so, they create more chance opportunities for themselves to get fortunate.

16 December 2013

Snippets

Kayaking! :)

Resilience

Fortunate people enjoy certain common traits:

* thinking positively
* seizing chance opportunities
* adopting a resilient attitude when there is a setback

15 December 2013

Snippets

Snorkeling! :)

Chance Opportunities

Brain-power and sheer hard work play an important role in our careers.
Chance opportunities are the big arbitrators in how our lives pan out.

14 December 2013

Snippets

Ding dong. Ding dong. Ding dong.

Football Game

Sometimes at a football game, if someone in front of us stands up, we can still see perfectly well if we look around him. But if everyone else is on their feet, we feel foolish if we do not stand up.

13 December 2013

Snippets

Ding dong. Ding dong.

Fortunate

It is better to be born fortunate than to be smart.

12 December 2013

Snippets

Why is the post dated November 2013 still attracting a lot of readers to the other blog? I am not complaining. I am just wondering with a very grateful heart. Thank you for dropping by :)

Positive

To get fortunate,
think positive.

11 December 2013

Snippets

It is 11.12.13 today :)

Social Media

It has allowed us to cast a wider net and get in front of our target market, but it is still important to have a strong idea to deliver.

10 December 2013

Snippets

Many people don't like her. Neither do I. As simple as this :)

LinkedIn

It is effective. It allows us to position ourselves and drive prospects from our LinkedIn accounts to our websites to our desks.

09 December 2013

Snippets

Treat each other with mutual respect and dignity. Pray for peace. Take care. #sgriot #littleindia

Promotion

For many, getting that deserved promotion can be an elusive thing. We work hard, possibly harder than those who have already been promoted. We are good at our job. We always have the company's best interests in mind.

Why then has our boss not rewarded us with a promotion?

If we are confident that our work performance is up-to-snuff and we have been with the company long enough to warrant a promotion, then we may question why.

Quite often, it is not our performance that is holding us back, but other factors that we may have overlooked or neglected.

08 December 2013

Peacemakers

David Cameron said: ‘A great light has gone out in the world. Nelson Mandela was a hero of our time.’

The Prime Minister has signed a book of condolence at South Africa House in London this morning.

In a message, he said Mr Mandela 'will inspire generations to come'.

He wrote: 'Your cause of fighting for freedom and against discrimination, your struggle for justice, your triumph against adversity - these things will inspire generations to come.'

'And through all of this, your generosity, compassion and profound sense of forgiveness have given us all lessons to learn and live by.'

He ended his message with a quote - 'Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God.'


07 December 2013

Snippets

The post on Paris Baguette is bringing a lot of traffic to the other blog. Very grateful! ^.^

Human Heart

"No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background or his religion. People learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite." ~ Nelson Mandela

06 December 2013

Snippets

Turn left.
Turn right?
Turn left :D

TCM method

Cook a sweet dessert of lily bulb, lotus seed, red dates and longan - about 30g of each - and drink it two hours before sleeping. These ingredients promote sound sleep.

05 December 2013

Snippets

First sight love on a soft toy. It's very rare for me :)

Smell Sleep

Drip one or two drops of lavender, mandarin, rose and chamomile oils on a tissue and slip it into our pillowcase so that we can smell it while we sleep. It does wonders.

04 December 2013

Two-hour Wind Down

To relax the mind and body, dedicate a winding-down period to prep for a good snooze.

03 December 2013

Snippets

Many eyeballs to a year-old post on the other blog. Hmmm... wonder why? :)

Leave Our Bed

If we lie awake in bed for 30 minutes or so, get up to do something else. A sedate activity such as reading is good, but avoid doing it in bed.

02 December 2013

Snippets

Goodbye. Goodbye. Missing both of them. Lovely ladies in the neighbourhood.

No Electronics

Keep mobile phones, television sets, laptops and iPads away from our haven of sleep. Please switch them off.

01 December 2013

Snippets

Righteous, responsible and respected :)

Hide the Clock

Avoid the temptation to watch the clock if we cannot sleep.

30 November 2013

Snippets

"Not our Benjamin," said the mother :D

Cool Our Room

A cooler room tricks our body into lowering its temperature, a pre-requisite for deep sleep.

29 November 2013

Snippets

The Christmas cards need to be posted very soon :)

Hands and Feet

Keep hands and feet warm.
Trick the mind and body for better sleep.

28 November 2013

Snippets

Happy Thanksgiving! :)

Children

Never let anyone tell us something about our children that we know is not true.
Nobody knows our children as well as we do.

27 November 2013

Snippets

Tested and tasty method with much accuracy :D

Trust

We should worry less and trust ourselves more :)

26 November 2013

Snippets

Panoramic peaks at 12noon for this blog and 2pm for the other blog today :)

Parents

Parents spend more time with their children today than parents in the mid-1960s did. Yet they worry about how well they are doing that job far more than our parents did.

25 November 2013

Writing

The physical boundaries between us serve only to release us from our inhibitions; nothing was off limits. Writing freed us.

24 November 2013

Learn

We prefer to keep a normal schedule.
And we learn to be okay with uncertainty.

23 November 2013

Snippets

I don't want anymore crepes.
I don't want crepes anymore.

I love the different meaning in the two sentences above :D

Ever

How much can we ever really know about another person, anyway?

22 November 2013

Snippets

I checked. I studied. I planned :D

Shifts

The gradual shifts in language reflect tectonic shifts in culture. We write less about community bonds and obligations because they are less central to our lives.

21 November 2013

Snippets

Should I do "a portrait of my surrounding, once a week, every week, in 2014"?

Patterns

People see patterns they already believe in.

20 November 2013

Snippets

Receipts from Popular and Fairprice :)

Social Breakdown

The atomisation and demoralisation of society have led to certain forms of social breakdown, which some governments had tried to address, sometimes successfully and often impotently.

19 November 2013

Snippets

Lips. Door. Aiyo! :D

Individualistic

Over the past half-century, society has become more individualistic. As it becomes more individualistic, it has also become less morally aware.

18 November 2013

Self-assurance

We inherited much of our self-assurance from our mentors, who exhibited the kind of self-confidence that comes from having been brought up in the security of a loving environment, surrounded by people who had loved them and by parents who had themselves been loved and respected.

17 November 2013

Engage

We should engage the world around us with an endless and seamless commitment that leave neither time for recriminations nor space for regret.

16 November 2013

Snippets

"Is it my Vincent?"
"No."

There are so many Vincents around :)

New Beginnings

At each stage of our lives, we should sought new beginnings instead of being carried along by the momentum of the past towards the inertia of the future.

15 November 2013

I Am

"I am who I think I am.
I am what I believe.
I am what I do." ~ Constance Singam

14 November 2013

Anonymous

With so much information on just one person easily digitised and stored online, it is no longer possible for anyone to be anonymous.

13 November 2013

Tribal Instinct

With people relying on more and diverse views, society will not only judge people according to who they know, but who their friends' friends' friends know. So big data will likely reinforce humankind's tribal instinct.

12 November 2013

Voices of Many

People will eventually disregard expert opinions in favour of findings from masses of data, preferring the wisdom of crowds to individual judgement. This may have the knock-on effect of individuals shirking persona responsibility for outcomes, since the world will heed only the voices of many.

11 November 2013

Snippets

Bulky, colourful, hairy and poisonous :D

Trends

Technology and the mass availability of masses of data is making it easier for data mining experts to detect trends, or recurring patterns, in anything from a particular shopper's tastes to where the next tornado might be.

10 November 2013

Big Data

It is about using extremely powerful machines that can almost think as humans do, to analyse oceans of information from different data troves, be they online chatter, web-browsing histories or physical activity captured by sensors.

09 November 2013

Mined Data

Psychology shows people tend to see an issue only from their point of view. So most data miners would be influenced by biases. That comprises the reliability of mined data.

08 November 2013

Snippets

Trophy. Apple strudel :)

Evidence

Human witness can lie.
Evidence cannot lie.

07 November 2013

Snippets

An extremely great once-in-a-lifetime eye-opener. Very blessed and honoured to be invited into their private circle. Discreet and trustworthy must always be maintained :)

Reasons

If one disregards the reasons behind a decision, one is disregarding the individual and values involved. This cannot be good for society.

So it is doubtful how an approach in which people need not explain the reasons behind their decisions could be applied successfully in public policy and governance in general.

06 November 2013

Snippets

369 visitors at 11am via hardwarezone forum. Hmmm... Why? Very grateful. Thank you :)

Governance

With as many voices against as for, with failure as possible as success, policies need to be underpinned by moral reasoning.

For that, we need to know the core values of our governance.

05 November 2013

Snippets

Nice weather for bazaar :)

Readers

There are more readers to my blog from USA, Germany and France than from Singapore. Thank you so much :)

04 November 2013

Snippets

Indonesian's LV purse. Practised right values :)

Balance

When different groups of people want different things, what was intended as balance comes off to some as pandering, and to others as confused.

03 November 2013

Fairness

Something like fairness means different things to different people.

Just as it is fair to some that those of greater means can buy multiple cars should pay for the privilege, it is also fair to others that those who have earned their money honestly get to spend it without reprisal.

02 November 2013

Class Envy

To some worried observers, class envy has poisoned the public discussion over cars and houses.

They note with dismay that in the national conversation on how to cool the property market and ease congestion on the roads, fundamental debate has been sidelined by calls to penalise those who have more.

01 November 2013

International Exposure

International exposure and holistic education prepare people better for a job in the real world. That is what universities need to do more in the future - mix conceptual and theoretical learning with practical exposure.

31 October 2013

Learning to Learn

What we learn today may be obsolete five years from now. We need to constantly learn new things. That is also what university education provides - a system of learning to learn.

30 October 2013

Experience of Learning

A degree helps get a better job and a higher salary with broader options, but it is the experience of learning that is more important in today's age.

29 October 2013

Snippets

Kings of tabloids :D

Strong Fragrances

Smelling good is definitely a vital part of looking good.

But avoid wearing strong perfumes or colognes in the office or workplace and keep in mind that some people are allergic to some perfumes.

So if our fragrance is too strong, only use it in our personal time.

28 October 2013

Snippets

National Library Board would like to archive a second blog of mine. Very touched. Great honour. Another blog of mine has been archived by them much earlier :)

Resilience

People who have mild and transient symptoms do not need a diagnosis or treatment. The likelihood is they are visiting the doctor on one of their worst days and will get better on their own. Medication is essential for severe problems but does more harm than good. It is better to trust time and resilience.

27 October 2013

Snippets

The highlight of the century happened today! Hee! :D

Mad

"We are all mad here," explains the Cat to Alice when she wonders about the strangeness of Wonderland.

Is life starting to follow art?

There are some strange and weird people around in your life and mine.

26 October 2013

Kiruna

The arctic iron race displaces this Swedish town.
Majority of the 23,000 residents back relocation to allow for expansion of mining.
The municipality is due to move into a new town hall in late 2016 and hopes to have one hotel, some restaurants and at least 100 apartments established by 2017.

Located above the Arctic Circle, Kirunans are used to 20 winter days during which the sun never rises. In the summer, the sun does not set for about 50 days.


25 October 2013

Snippets

Wow! I can't believe there are only ten more weeks left of 2013. This year flew by, don't you think? :)

Home

Shadows play hide and seek,
painting walls as they dance with the lights.

Like a beacon of warmth and beautiful memories,
our home beckons.

24 October 2013

Speculation

It is very important to distinguish between what we are saying and what we think the others had in their mind.  We should not speculate.

23 October 2013

Job Fatigue

We have been working with our employer for a number of years. We are too familiar with the operations procedures and the people working there.

Day after day, month after month, year after year, we have been doing our job unquestioningly. After all, we get a decent salary and it pays the bills, supports our family and gives us a certain lifestyle.

But now, we face the inevitable fact that our passion and enthusiasm for the work has diminished.

This is known as job fatigue.

22 October 2013

Bridges

Don't burn too many bridges on your quest to self-fulfillment or someday you may find that you need to cross a bridge to get away from the fires you started.

陈年往事的友情搬出来讲 :)

21 October 2013

Real

It is not about who is real to your face but it is about who stays real behind your back.

20 October 2013

Free Ourselves

"Free ourselves from negative people. Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and like-minded. Relationships should help us, not hurt us. Surround ourselves with people who reflect the person we want to be. Choose friends who we are proud to know, people we admire, who love and respect us - people who make our day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of us. When we free ourselves from negative people, we free ourselves to be ourselves. Being ourselves is the only way to truly live." ~ Author Unknown

19 October 2013

Snippets

Auntie Ferrari lost 7 kg over 3 months under doctor's supervision. She is also known as Auntie Lamborghini now :)

WTF Restaurant

This restaurant is located in Bangsar, Malaysia.

Some items which are on their menu:

Something RM6
I Don't Know RM10
Anything RM12
Everything RM20
Whatever RM15


HaHa! This is so funny :D

18 October 2013

EQ Leadership

It is the ability to understand ourselves and others and know what to say or do, to influence people (including ourselves) and get positive results.

17 October 2013

Snippets

Smelly Tiger. 19 Nov 2013 comes before 22 Oct 2013 :D

Social Skills

It is our adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others through communication, collaboration, influence and relationship-building.

16 October 2013

Snippets

Read The Time Keeper by Mitch Albom.

Empathy

It is our ability to sense others' feelings and see their perspectives, and understand the dynamics of relationships by anticipating, recognising and meeting their needs.

15 October 2013

Snippets

Very severe thunderstorm for 4 hours since 3am. Heavy rain until 10am.

Self-motivation

Knowing how to use our emotions to propel ourselves into action toward a desired goal and to persevere despite obstacles or setbacks.

14 October 2013

Snippets

Heavy rain in the morning. Finished reading House Rules by Jodi Picoult.

Self-regulation

Managing our moods by keeping our emotions and impulses in check and controlling our feelings and resources to enhance our performance and productivity.

13 October 2013

Snippets

It's not a question. I'm just asking. HaHa!
What is the difference? :D

Self-awareness

Recognising our emotions and their effects, knowing our strengths and limitations as well as having a strong sense of our own capabilities and self-worth, is very important.

12 October 2013

Snippets

An elderly lady deposited 1,200 pieces of five cents coins :)

Emotional Intelligence

What sets us apart now is our ability to manage ourselves and develop meaningful relationships with others. It all boils down to emotional intelligence leadership.

11 October 2013

Snippets

Yellow Ferrari E73M :)

Success

A person's success is often determined by the mantra he believes in.

10 October 2013

Snippets

Rained at the car park but not at the park :)

Snippets

Write simply, with sincerity :)

Attitude

"Success is just an attitude away."

Having an excellent attitude is a self-serving mechanism towards success.

09 October 2013

Snippets

Hugable fat and horribly fat :D

Future

We do not repudiate, regret or feel guilty about our good memories. We also dug for the exceptions and sacrifices that lurked behind our one-dimensional view of the past. We were able to adapt to change. Both as individuals and as a society, we must learn to view the past in three dimensions before we can move into the fourth dimension of the future with a grateful and humble heart.

08 October 2013

Snippets

EN 2828 on the left
SFT 2828 on the right
along SLE

Such a rare coincidence on the expressway :)

Oases

Some men came to understand that the homes they regarded as personal oases seemed more like workplace to some other people.

07 October 2013

Snippets

Very lovely 2014 calenders :)

Sacrifice

Some children realise that their idyllic summers at the beach happened only because their mother had given up something else she had very much wanted to do.

06 October 2013

Guide

We need to be able to use the memory of what others did wrong to chart a different and better course in our own lives. We should never idealise anyone nor focus on their shortcomings. Rather, we place their failures in context, turning our objectives into a sense of acceptance for and understanding of the conditions under which they had functioned. Our memories and experiences become a guide for avoiding bad behaviour rather than an excuse for it.

05 October 2013

Snippets

15 dollars.
50 cents :)

Meaningful Complexities

Memories need to be put in context. They need to be cross-examined to understand the meaningful complexities in our lives.

04 October 2013

Snippets

BST account. HaHa! :)

Memory

The most useful way to understand the past and make it work for us, is to look at the trade-offs and contradictions that, however deeply buried, can be uncovered in every memory.

03 October 2013

Snippets

She looks so different now. Is Melbourne so sunny?

Truth

There is nothing wrong with celebrating the good things in our past. But memories, like witnesses, do not always tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. We need to cross-examine them, recognising and accepting the inconsistencies and gaps in those that make us proud and happy as well as those that teach us lessons.

02 October 2013

Global Situation

In society at large, nostalgia can distort our understanding of the world in dangerous ways, making us needlessly negative about the current global situation.

01 October 2013

Nostalgia

In personal life, the warm glow of nostalgia amplifies good memories and minimises bad ones about experiences, encouraging us to revisit and renew our ties. It always involves a little harmless self-deception, like forgetting the pain of childbirth.

30 September 2013

Pomelo

The pomelo is a crisp citrus fruit native to South and Southeast Asia. It is usually pale green to yellow when ripe, with sweet white flesh and very thick albedo. 

Have you eaten them before?

29 September 2013

Sunrise

Every sunrise is different.
Each second of the same sunrise is different too.

Just marvel in the great beauty of sunrise...

28 September 2013

Snippets

Lost the mobile phone in the town center. Found it 20 minutes later. Very, very grateful :)

Happiness

Happiness is found in healthy relationships, in having fewer wants and being contented with what we already have.

27 September 2013

Snippets

Wear and tear :D

Philanthropy

Philanthropy is not just for wealth redistribution but also about spreading compassion and empathy, and showing solidarity for less advantaged brethren.

26 September 2013

Snippets

Stalagmites and stalactites appeared in our conversation and the novel within the same minute :)

Phablets

Phablets, a cross between a phone and a tablet, have been on a roll since late 2011 as tech-savvy consumers, particularly in Asia, devote more time browsing data-heavy Web pages and downloading media content. Even Samsung's flagship Galaxy S4 smartphone has a 5-inch screen that puts it squarely in the phablet category for some analysts.

25 September 2013

Wealth Gap

Around the world, government leaders, political observers and civil society actors have been discussing the challenge of dealing with the wealth gap, not just for economic reasons but also for political and moral ones.

24 September 2013

Snippets

The 15th free farm on Farmville. Mystical Groves :)

Wealth

Accumulation of wealth and idle private savings in increasingly fewer hands fuels both conspicuous consumption and speculative markets, with its attendant asset bubbles and inflation, even while there is high global unemployment.

23 September 2013

Hedonistic Lifestyle

It is not wrong to want to live better.

What is wrong is a hedonistic lifestyle that assumes having more is more important than being more, that the aim of life is the singular pursuit of individual enjoyment.

What is also improper are people indulging in mounting excesses, even while their fellow humans are mired in poverty, without their basic needs met.

22 September 2013

Stewards

Do we believe that humans are stewards of the earth's resources, which are for the enjoyment of the entire human race?

21 September 2013

Consumerist Society

Are we living in a consumerist society, driven by instant gratification and the use of visible signs to mark our social status?

20 September 2013

Snippets

Beginner's luck. One try. Level 183 :)

Trolls

Tune the trolls out instead of singing their song :)

19 September 2013

Antoinette Singapore

There are four outlets at

Penhas Road
Palais Renaissance
Mandarin Gallery
Scarlet Hotel

18 September 2013

Silence

“Silence, then, could be said to be the ultimate province of trust: it is the place where we trust ourselves to be alone; where we trust others to understand the things we do not say; where we trust a higher harmony to assert itself. We all know how treacherous are words, and how often we use them to paper over embarrassment, or emptiness, or fear of the larger spaces that silence brings. 'Words, words, words' commit us to positions we do not really hold, the imperatives of chatter; words are what we use for lies, false promises, and gossip. We babble with strangers; with intimates we can be silent. We 'make conversation' when we are at a loss; we unmake it when we are alone, or with those so close to us that we can afford to be alone with them.

In love, we are speechless; in awe, we say, words fail us.”

- Pico Iyer








When will you finally understand that silence is an answer as well?

17 September 2013

Pet Owners

People who own pets certainly have more reason to go outside and take walks. Most owners form such close bonds with their pets that being in their presence blunts the owners' reactions to stress and lowers their heart rate

16 September 2013

Snippets

Durian mooncakes. Yummilicious! :)

Emotional Connection

Having many friends and family members around does not guarantee immunity from loneliness if the relationships are missing a strong emotional connection. The quality of these relationships - how meaningful they are to the individual - counts more than numbers in predicting loneliness.

15 September 2013

Snippets

Pink balloon in the sky. So pretty! :)

Lonely

People who reported feeling lonely - regardless of how many friends and family surrounded them - were more likely to develop dementia than those who lived on their own but were not lonely.

14 September 2013

Loneliness

When loneliness eats at us, try feeding others through volunteering and reduce the health risk that is social isolation.

13 September 2013

Snippets

GUESS advertises on my blog. Hee! :)

Medical Tourism

Now, with Spain experiencing its worst economic crisis since the end of Franco's dictatorship, medical tourism is one of the country's few booming industries. Spain leads Europe in the donation and transplantation of organs.

12 September 2013

Lasting Ties

"The way to strong, lasting ties is to do what we actually say, and listen to others before we do anything. We can never sustain what we impose by force. But we can succeed by just our presence of being empathetic of others." ~ Sajjad Ashraf

11 September 2013

Common Ground

"Find common ground with others,
and we can stand our ground well."
~ Ibrahim Gambari

10 September 2013

Lunch at Our Desk

We may think that eating our lunch at our desk while working through our break makes us look like a dedicated worker but our boss may look at it as anti-social behaviour. It is important for our boss to witness that we get along with our colleagues.

09 September 2013

Snippets

Tocco Tenero :)

Apple iPhone 5S

According to a leaked 'publicity plan' obtained by CTechCN.com, the Apple iPhone 5S will sport the new A7 processor, a fingerprint scanner, an 8-megapixel rear camera with f/2.0 aperture, dual-LED flash and a 2-megapixel front-facing camera. The standby time is increased from 225 hours to 250 hours.

As expected of an 'iPhone S model', the upcoming device will sport the same physical dimensions as its predecessor (123.8 x 58.6 x 7.6mm, 112g).

This also means that the iPhone 5S will retain the 4-inch display with a resolution of 1,136 x 640 pixels (326ppi).

Apple is widely expected to launch a gold-tone iPhone and our sources indicate that Singapore will be among the first wave of countries to get the new iPhone on September 20.

08 September 2013

Snippets

Mochi! :)

Arctic Council

Singapore is granted permanent observer status on the Arctic Council in Kiruna, Sweden. The Republic is recognised for its expertise in shipping, coastal management and maritime governance.

The Arctic is estimated to hold 30% of the world's undiscovered gas and 13% of oil, as well as one-fifth of the world's fisheries.

07 September 2013

Snippets

Miko! :)

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a feeling that you are not going to allow yourself to be victimised anymore. It is the liberating transformation from being an innocent victim to become a stronger survivor.

06 September 2013

Snippets

Rainbow! :)

Living

Living a life of no limits, no excuses, no regrets
within the correct spiritual, moral and legal boundaries.

05 September 2013

Snippets

Hundreds visited my blog daily for the past three days because of a May 2013 post :)

Challenges

"Life comes with many challenges. The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of." ~ Angelina Jolie

04 September 2013

Fake

Why must she lie about an overseas vacation when she had been staying at home? Is there anything wrong by just staying at home during the holiday season?

The few photographs which were uploaded by her on Facebook were downloaded from various sources online.

Why did she fake it?

03 September 2013

Thank you

Thank you for coming back to this blog time and time again ^.^

02 September 2013

No Matter

No matter how the story is told, it does not eliminate the obvious :)

01 September 2013

Mobile Number

Just googled a particular mobile number. The search results were astounding. So many different identities were used by the same person on different websites and forums over the years.

When will we stop discovering new facts online?

31 August 2013

Snippets

Cell phone ^.^

Gelato


No visit to Rome is complete without trying gelato ^.^

30 August 2013

Snippets

Doctor and mechanic :D

Personal Growth

If all of us learn to be much more aware, empathetic and caring about the consequences of our words and actions on others, then mutual trust, morale and ultimately personal growth, would greatly improve.

29 August 2013

Effective Leaders

They should, as a priority, stand for the well-being and improvement of others and be willing to go the distance to make it happen.

28 August 2013

Snippets

May I say that I'm loving the claps of thunder and flashes of lightning in the sky now? The heavy rain is so melodious too. It's a natural symphony to my ears :)

Effective Leadership

It does not always require perfection and invincibility.
Being authentic and vulnerable can be very inspiring.

27 August 2013

Snippets

She can play the game very well with her new eyes from Korea :)

Beautiful Woman

A beautiful woman uses
her lips for truth
her voice for kindness
her ears for compassion
her hands for charity
her heart for love

26 August 2013

More

“You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.” ~ Audrey Hepburn

25 August 2013

Speak and Listen

Speak in such a way that others love to listen to us

Listen in such a way that others love to speak to us :)

24 August 2013

Two-faced Person

How could she?

She had trusted her totally and completely. They were doing the same course. They were in the same project groups. They are still from the same cell zone.

Then she organised a surprise meeting for her with someone whom she has been avoiding.

How could she?

"True friends don't act this way" she tweeted on her birthday in May.

23 August 2013

Snippets

Cheque from Nuffnang :)

Sometimes

I wonder
I ponder

but

I always stand in awe of God

Bless Him!

22 August 2013

Viber


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21 August 2013

Snippets

So overwhelming to chance upon DeFred :)

Moving On

“I think it happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you've known forever don't see things the way you do. And so you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.”


Nicholas SparksTrue Believer

20 August 2013

Snippets

Adios to the purple handbag.

Value

We cannot be defined by what others think of us, but instead we must know the value in ourselves :) 

19 August 2013

Acceptance

Acceptance does not mean resignation.

Accept to befriend and transform,
instead of trying to fight and destroy.

Only full acceptance can bring us true peace.

18 August 2013

Live

"To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all." ~ Oscar Wilde

17 August 2013

Weeds

"Weeds are flowers, too, once you get to know them." ~ A.A. Milne

16 August 2013

Meaning

Life can be more enriching and meaningful if we know what we want and why we want. Finding meaning in what we want will be the key motivator for us to pursue our dreams.

15 August 2013

Reconnect

Throw out the negative looping voices in our head. Give ourselves some quiet time regularly. More awareness will come to us of our feelings, thoughts, words and actions - before we even act on them.

14 August 2013

Self-awareness

We must understand and be honest with ourselves.

13 August 2013

Hope

Whenever possible,
humans err on the side of hope.

12 August 2013

Division

The division between an observer and a participant is nearly invisible; we can cross it before we even know we have stepped over the line.

11 August 2013

Choice

We believed that most people, when given the choice, would do what was right, even when it was hard, and we believe that good almost always triumphed over evil.

10 August 2013

Beauty

Whatever facial issue they have - whether it be a mole, a scar - the random stranger would look past that and look at the beauty of the women.

09 August 2013

Beautiful

We are more beautiful than we think. We also have to keep reminding ourselves that beauty is more than just  about looks.

08 August 2013

Snippets

My most beloved nephew had just joined the blogging community :)

Poetry

Poetry
wasn't written to be analyzed

it was meant
to inspire without reason
to touch without understanding
to encourage without remembering


07 August 2013

Sunset

“Dusk is just an illusion because the sun is either above the horizon or below it. And that means that day and night are linked in a way that few things are there cannot be one without the other yet they cannot exist at the same time. How would it feel I remember wondering to be always together yet forever apart?” 
Nicholas SparksThe Notebook

06 August 2013

Circumstances

Whether we like it or not, our attitude shows up in our behaviour or actions, which in turn affect the circumstances of our life.

05 August 2013

Snippets

The mystery of the pair of spectacles is finally solved :D

Silence

“We sit silently and watch the world around us. This has taken a lifetime to learn. It seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still feel content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, for silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking. This is the great paradox.” ~  Nicholas SparksThe Notebook

04 August 2013

Attitude

It is what we think and feel about situations, people, ideas, objects - basically anything that concerns us.

03 August 2013

Friend

"A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." ~ Elbert Hubbard

02 August 2013

Beauty of a Woman

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.” ~ Audrey Hepburn :)

01 August 2013

Gesture

"No gesture is too small when done with gratitude." ~ Oprah Winfrey

31 July 2013

Radiating

Radiating an earnest,
honest-to-goodness charm,
with much sincerity and humility.

30 July 2013

Lest

Lest We Forget :)

29 July 2013

Snippets

Lot One and Hougang Mall :)

Go On

... the forgotten memories
will stay forgotten...

life must go on
with compassion, gratitude and reflection
with humility, responsibility and sincerity

28 July 2013

Everything

"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances." ~ Viktor Frankl

27 July 2013

Snippets

Kuala Langat?

Greatest

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." ~ William James

26 July 2013

Nothing

"Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude." ~ Thomas Jefferson

25 July 2013

Snippets

The very professional service staff had been transferred to Hougang Mall.

Memories

One can't compare the times
but
also not erase the memories :)

24 July 2013

Snippets

Caught a PRC shoplifter in NTUC.

Move Along

If you do not like it,
then I kindly ask you to move along.

We won't mind :)

23 July 2013

Always

"Never give up hoping, and always keep on trying." ~ Leo Tan

22 July 2013

Snippets

687 days :)

Quiet

Never underestimate the quiet people with a genuine and pure intention.

21 July 2013

Action

If we have the knowledge and the inspiration, all that's left is to take positive and encouraging action.

20 July 2013

Fools

We don't argue with fools. It's not worth a thing. Let an idiot remain an idiot :)

19 July 2013

Captured

"Captured!!! The hunt is over. The search is done. The terror is over. And justice has won. Suspect in custody." ~ tweeted the police in Boston on the marathon bombing suspect

18 July 2013

Knock

"You can knock us back but you can't keep us down." ~ Nick Montanaro :)

17 July 2013

Malang

Malang, a two-hour car ride from Surabaya, Indonesia, makes for a refreshing weekend trip with its cool climate, national park and adventure activities.

16 July 2013

Patbingsu

Greedy everyday
Heard about patbingsu the other day
Googled image it one day
Tried it yesterday
Still thinking about it today :)

15 July 2013

Bias

The truth is, for every bias we hold against someone, someone else is biased against us for another reason. But as long as we don't know about it, it doesn't hurt us.

14 July 2013

Prejudices

There are prejudices that we have tried so hard to pretend don't exist - differences in race, nationality, age, gender and, yes, weight.

13 July 2013

Question

We all will die, there is no doubt about that.

The question is, while we are alive, do we know how to live?

12 July 2013

Passing

The passing of someone close to us brings on a gamut of emotions, the oft-cited five stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

It also put our actions and priorities into perspective.

11 July 2013

More Runaway Maids from Myanmar

The reason is that they arrive with large debts to repay, and until those are cleared some receive no money at all. Others get just $10 or $20 a month.

10 July 2013

Our Lives

"Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results." ~ Author Unknown 

09 July 2013

Smile

A smile is a smile in all cultures :)

08 July 2013

Abuser


An abuser is a cad. He is a user and an abuser. And, worse, he won't even own up to what he has done and blames us for it instead! It is not uncommon for abusive people to be regarded by others as nice, good people. That is why so many people don't believe or understand when abused partners report it.
The abuser is always charming and wonderful. After an abusive incident, they are remorseful, and promise to change and pay so much attention to their friends. And then it starts all over again. This is called the circle of violence.
People like this don't change. We must understand and accept that. Any amount of care, sympathy, understanding or love will not change them.

07 July 2013

Fraudsters

Fraudsters prey on their victims' greed and often misrepresent products, painting returns as better than they actually are and underplaying risks. They also typically use pressure tactics to force an immediate purchase.

06 July 2013

Be Sceptical

The best defence for any investor is a healthy dose of scepticism. Investors should not be afraid to ask questions, even if we are afraid that the question may make us look stupid. Rather, we should treat this as an educational exercise.

05 July 2013

Roots and Wings

"There are two greatest gifts we can give our children. One is roots; the other is wings." ~ Author Unknown

04 July 2013

Take Chances

"Take chances, take a lot of them. Because honestly, where you end up with and with whom, it always ends up just the way it should be. Your mistakes make you who you are. You learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Say how you feel, always.

Be you, and be ok with it."

~ Author Unknown

03 July 2013

Mrs Yu Youzhen


Owning 17 apartments and millions of yuan in the bank would mean an easy, leisurely life.
Not that she is busy adding to her property portfolio - she refuses to quit her day job as a street sweeper.But living a life of leisure is not for Mrs Yu Youzhen. The 53-year-old from Wuhan in China's Hubei province prefers the hard life.
The reason? She doesn't want to lose her work ethic and fears she may be a poor role model for her children, UK's The Telegraph reported.

02 July 2013

Accessories

Accessories can definitely reflect our personal style and can be a plus if worn in moderation. But some should be avoided in order to look professional and credible.

Women should avoid large, dangling earrings and wear no more than one ring per hand, a nice watch and a simple necklace.

Men should stick to a watch, one ring and a simple belt. Ties with loud patterns should be avoided.

Always remember that when it comes to accessorising in the workplace: Less is more.

01 July 2013

2013

The year 2012 will be remembered by many in Singapore for its high-profile scandals involving those in public institutions and organisations.

It was last year that former high-ranking civil servants Ng Boon Gay and Peter Lim were charged, and the sex-for-grades case came to light. It was also the year that Kong Hee and five others from City Harvest Church were arrested.

How about 2013?

30 June 2013

Business Casual

Basically, business casual for men is tailored pants or khaki-coloured pants, a button-down collared or polo shirt and traditional black or brown shoes. Wearing a tie or blazer is optional.

Business casual for women means classic black or brown pants, a well-pressed shirt or blouse and high heels.


29 June 2013

Professional Dress

In general, the business dress for men that works best in most corporate environments is a conservative dark or charcoal-grey suit, a white or blue long-sleeve, button-down shirt and a necktie with minimal or no patterns.

Women's business attire consists of a pantsuit or a suit with a skirt, paired with a closed-toe high heels.

28 June 2013

Snippets

E wrote "I think of you often." Awww... she is so sweet :)

Contemplate

We live in a world that leaves us little time to contemplate.

We are busy people. Pursuing our thoughts in silent contemplation takes an investment of time that few can spare. Yet all of us need to patch together what bits of reflection we can. If we lack the time to seek out silent spaces, we lack the time to think clearly; and if we lack the time to think clearly, we lack the time to appreciate silence well.

27 June 2013

Socrates

Socrates didn't always have the answers, and wasn't always interested in dialogue. Again and again, we see him going off alone to think.

26 June 2013

Thinking

"Thinking is always out of order, interrupts all ordinary activities and is interrupted by them." ~ Hannah Arendt


Yet we need to do it.

25 June 2013

Reason

To reason our way to reliable answers, we need the time and space to think. Otherwise, we cannot really listen and reason but only react - and when we react rather than listen, the possibilities for genuine public conversation are debased.

24 June 2013

Evidence

Evidence of a reflective and thoughtful character.

23 June 2013

Snippets

Number 83 (*.*)

Smog

Singaporeans, Malaysians and Indonesians have been choking on smog, originating in Indonesia, for the past 16 years since the great South-east Asian haze of 1997. Jakarta can solve this deplorable problem only by an act of political will and faithful implementation of laws with sufficient bite.

22 June 2013

Think

We need silence to think both clearly and charitably. In a world of constant sound and stimulation, it is harder to be accurate in our reasoning and empathetic in our listening.

21 June 2013

Snippets

PSI 401 and STI 3111 at 12 noon just now. NEL breakdown a few days ago. Is God trying to tell the nation something?

Value of Silence

In silence, we are able to listen to and understand ourselves; ideas come to birth and acquire depth; we understand with greater clarity what it is we want to say and what we expect from others; and we choose how to express ourselves. By remaining silent we allow the other person to speak, to express himself or herself; and we avoid being tied to our own words and ideas without them being adequately tested. In this way, space is created for mutual listening, and deeper human relationships become possible.

20 June 2013

Snippets

PSI 371 at 1pm just now. We missed the clear blue skies and fresh air.

Hazy Hot Humid

Singapore haze hit the hazardous level of  PSI 321 at 10pm yesterday.
Will it be better today?

This is the most unhealthy and uncomfortable weather combination in any location.

When will it rain very heavily again?

When will the farmers in Indonesia stop their practice of slash and burn in clearing their land?

19 June 2013

Value

The great and priceless value of silence in an extremely loud world.

18 June 2013

Snippets

With the PSI at 155 and temperature at 33C, are you a crispy and BBQ critter now? :D

Cronut

It is half doughnut and half croissant.

It has left the Big Apple's gourmands in a frenzy.

The Dominique Ansel Bakery in the heart of trendy Soho opened its door at 8am. By 8.56am almost all of the 250 to 300 cronuts are sold.

17 June 2013

Snippets

♥ Reese chocolates 

Clever and Wise

Universities are good at educating clever people.
Wisdom generally comes from within.